Mentors and coaches can change the trajectory of someone’s life. I made a list of 16 ways to succeed that wish I had known. I would like to have known these ways to succeed when I was in my twenties or earlier. It is in no special order. What resonates with you?
- Now is all there is. Living in the past or yearning for the future short changes now.
- Pay little attention to naysayers. Surround yourself with encouragers that are truthful because they want you to succeed not to keep you stuck.
- Have a dream. Do your part to achieve the dream. Be willing to accept something better than the dream you imagined or planned.
- Ask for help. Others paid the tuition to learn what works and what doesn’t work.
- Worry solves nothing. It occupies valuable mental and emotional space without producing results.
- Trust your instincts. Get more information to confirm what feels true.
- Keep your BS detector in good working order.
- Be your own advocate. It is your responsibility to take care of yourself.
- Say, “I don’t know” when you don’t know. No one knows everything about everything.
- Be confident, not cocky. Stand in your own power.
- Define your measure of success. Do not settle to meet the low expectations of others and “never acquire a lifestyle you would sell your soul to keep” (Dr. Johnetta B. Coles at the 2013 WPO conference).
- Expect to make mistakes that provide priceless insights. Embrace failure.
- Pursuit of perfection is a waste of time and has a huge emotional toll. You don’t have to prove that you are worthy. You are enough.
- Look for the opportunity in the problem.
- Accept responsibility for your choices. Make better choices and don’t invest energy to blame others.
- Be grateful. Laugh at yourself. Have fun.
“When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” As soon as you are ready to learn, you do. If not, another “teacher” appears to give you another opportunity.
I find it works best to learn as quickly as possible. Some lessons are not always that much fun.
There is always another lesson waiting for the student. Curiosity for what’s next, creates an attitude of adventure. I am up for the ride. How about you?
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